Sex Tips for Women Pt. 4

May 14

May 14 Sex Tips for Women Pt. 4

WARNING: THIS ARTICLE IS NSFW.
Women asked, men answered.

What is a guy’s favorite position?

The majority of men responded “doggy”. I believe this is their favorite/ preferred position for a few reasons. Men are extremely visual beings. From this position, they can see the actual penetration which is likely a huge turn on for them. They also control the pace and can better gauge what feels best for their partner.

I read an article about this on Cosmo and one guy said, “It also feels really, really close to having anal sex. Men are obsessively curious about anal, but it's understandably not something that happens every day.”

So, you know, there's that. 😂

What things do you want your partner to say during sex?

90 men responded to this and their answers weren’t that much different from when girls asked men what they wanted to hear during sex in this article.

Some of the most common responses were the following:

“Words/ sounds that affirm when we’re doing something you like”
“Our names, if it feels good, suggestions, when you’re about to orgasm, affirmations”
“Tell us what feels good, that we make you wet, how turned on you are”.

Our partners want to make us feel good. They just need a little guidance on how to get there. If we say something feels good, or make noises/movements that indicate something feels good, they’re going to keep doing more of that. So keep that in mind!

What's a guy’s weakness?

EAR KISSING. EAR KISSING/NIBBLING IS THE MOST COMMON WEAKNESS AMONG MEN. Why did I just write that in all caps?! Likely because I was traumatized by my siblings with wet-willys growing up so I don’t like to venture in that area 😂. But I get it. Similar to neck kissing/sucking, ears are a very sensitive area for many people.

Other common responses were:

Neck kissing (samsies)
Eye contact (samsies)
Moaning
When the girl is genuinely enjoying herself

Can men tell if their partner is faking an orgasm?

In all honesty, I don’t believe the majority of the men who voted “yes” know if a partner is faking it or not. I’ve asked multiple men and guy-friends in-person and their answers are either untrue or unclear.

It’s not about how loud a girl is or how much she moves or stiffens “during” the orgasm. As women, we know the telltale sign, don’t we? It’s the involuntarily contractions that happen inside.

Their confidence here scares me a little. Did you know that 75% of women can’t orgasm without some sort of clitoral stimulation? That means there is only a 25% chance a guy will help his partner achieve an orgasm… that’s one out of every four times. Yikes.

So instead of faking it, lets help our partners understand what we like and what feels best for us. Life is too short for selfish partners and unfulfilling sex.

ONE MORE TIME FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK:
LIFE IS TOO SHORT FOR SELFISH PARTNERS AND UNFULFILLING SEX.

Do men like music during intimacy?

I personally don’t mind silence as long as my partner isn’t a complete mute. Music is an incredible way to connect with people. In an intimate setting, music can set/change the vibe and rhythm. Some people cannot stand any sort of silence and music is a good way of filling that void. Try curating a secret/collaborative playlist with your partner 😉.

Do men immediately know if they want to see a partner again or not after they have sex with them?

Okay, ladies. Listen up. There’s a thing called “post-nut clarity” that men experience. I feel that a man would explain it better so here is a definition from an insightful article by Binghampton Review:

“Post-nut, the brain experiences a sudden drop in horniness. This shifts your priorities, and for a few golden moments, primal urges are stripped away and you find yourself capable of critical thought. Instantaneously, you are made aware of the degeneracy of porn and shortcomings of your own perspective, like a puppet that can see the strings.”

It’s almost as if women think clearly before having sex with someone they like and become blinded AFTER the deed is done 😂. Whereas men are blinded BEFORE and then think crticially about their choices after. Ohh the duality. Gotta love it.

Take this information how ever you’d like but know that the majority of them do in fact know if they want to keep seeing you or not after you’ve been intimate with them. Let that be your answer if you’re questioning their sudden change in behavior.

I’ve come to LOVE writing these articles for the sole reason that it gets people communicating and exploring. I love hearing that my content and collective questions spark intimate conversations within partnerships that lead to deeper connections and clarity. Mission accomplished 🥰.

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Thank you to everyone who voted, responded and posed questions for these articles!

xX,
Stephanie