Why Do Women Flake On Dates?
I asked women from our Instagram community why they would ever ‘flake’ on a date and over 50 women shared their reasons:
2 Most Common Reasons Women Flake on Dates:
She’s not interested
She has anxiety about the date/ isn’t feeling confident enough to show up
What does it means when a girl bails on you:
There could be various reasons as for why she wasn’t interested enough to follow through. Some women mentioned they weren’t interested enough because the guy wasn’t interesting enough. Here are some other reasons women mentioned about not being interested:
“Not that interested to begin with and tried to convince myself that I was”
“Lack of communication on his part/ no spark”
“Not interested, and or would rather do something else”
“Could be hung up on a different person”
“Initially said yes under pressure but I didn't actually want to”
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Other reasons why women cancel last minute:
Anxiety and low self-esteem— two things that are rarely talked about yet SO MANY people experience. For women specifically, our emotions and self-esteem can change throughout our menstrual cycle. There are some days out of the month where we become extremely self-critical and have little to NO energy. These are the days where we would rather stay in and do nothing than force a connection and effort on a date.
I’ve been there. And it doesn’t just have to do with our cycles. Anxiety and low self-esteem can also be triggered by a poor diet which makes us feel extremely insecure *queue in the self-sabotaging thoughts*, and BAM, we no longer want to go on the date because we feel icky as fck. Might be silly to some men reading this but this is a real thing and it effects more women than you know.
Is she interested even though she canceled?
I’m going to let you in on a huge secret… This is a sure way of knowing if she genuinely likes you or not. If she cancels last minute and doesn’t try to reschedule for a different day, she’s not interested in you. Part of me wants to give her the benefit of the doubt and say maybe she’ll reach out in a few days and reschedule, but the point here is that if she doesn’t make that effort, she is not interested in exploring things with you. Thank you, next.
If someone isn't going to make an effort to get to know you, you can’t take it personally… we never know what someone is actually going through/dealing with. If you find yourself even more attracted to this person as they begin to pull away, there is a deeper personal attachment/abandonment issue at hand that you need to take a closer look at.
You should be so sure of yourself, your value and energy you bring into a relationship that if someone is going to reject it, you almost feel sorry for them for being unable to see what you see in yourself. You should never waste your time proving your worth to anyone. High self-worth is radiant, magnetic and secure.
I hope this provided some clarity for you. If you are wondering how you should respond when a woman cancels on you last minute, DM me or email me. I would love to provide insight I’ve gathered from women and personal experience. Every situation is different and I can better understand/ support you through a scheduled call if you find yourself unsure of what to do next in a situation like this.
