Top 6 feelings men and women want to experience in their relationships
Have you ever wondered how men and women wish feel in their ideal partnerships?
I thought knowing this information would be so valuable because it allows for men and women to learn and share their deepest needs with one another. Relationship needs can be things we cannot provide for ourselves so we rely on others to help provide them for us. Or maybe we can provide specific needs for ourselves but we prefer those needs be filled and met by our partner for validation, companionship, belonging and affection.
If our needs are not met, this can lead to one or both partners becoming dissatisfied within the relationship and ultimately lead to uncoupling. This is why it’s so important to know how you love, how you want to be loved and how your partner loves and wants to be loved. Uncomfortable conversations can be just that. But they can lead to much deeper bonding, clarity and validation.
The exact question I asked our Instagram community was:
“How do you want to feel in your ideal partnership?”
These were the most common responses from men and women & ordered by most popular. There were more responses but I decided to only include 6 because they received the majority of the votes. (Based on 202 men and women who responded).
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Just as I thought, this table of information is so valuable. I would take each feeling and place it into a question for my partner.
I would ask my partner: “How can I best support you?” or “How do you want me to support you?”
“When do you feel most desired by me?” or “What do I do that makes you feel wanted/ desired by me?”
Another example would be: “Do you feel appreciated/ respected by me in our relationship?”
If you have a female partner, the following questions would be like a breath of fresh air to us women:
What makes you feel safe and secure in our relationship?
When do you feel the most loved by me?
How can I best support you?
Intimacy is vulnerability.
Intimacy is feeling exposed when you share yourself and your internal world with someone else. Mental, emotional and spiritual intimacy run even deeper than physical intimacy in my opinion. To be fully seen, heard and understood is a different sort of nourishment - it feels healing, secure and abundant.
Intimacy/ this depth of vulnerability is also scary, I can’t disregard that. But the reward of deep connection, being fully seen, supported and celebrated for who you truly are is worth leaning into every wince of discomfort.
This is very likely one of my favorite findings/ articles I’ve written this year. I would love for you to ask your partner these questions. I deeply believe this information and questions have the ability to help couples share & understand each other’s feelings, needs and desires within a partnership.
Feel free to DM me on Instagram about this article or share your experience if you talked about this with your partner!
With love,
Stephanie
