How many men are into butt stuff?
“Don’t knock it til you try it. Some tongue and reach around will change your life”
-Anonymous male, late 20s
In our heteronormative culture, there is shame, guilt, and confusion around men admitting they enjoy a little or a lot of butt play. The antiquated idea that to be on the insertion end of anything sexual would detract from their masculinity. To these men, to enjoy butt stuff is to admit that they enjoy something predominately revered in the gay community.
PSA: butt play does not mean you are or make you gay/bi.
I’ve tried my very best to create and build a neutral, safe and trusted community/ platform where people feel comfortable sharing their beliefs, standards, desires and experiences. So much so that I’ve become The Liaison between different groups and conversations. And I fcking love it. I find it all extremely fascinating and I’m honored people consider this platform as a trusted resource to learn & share.
Alll that being said, thank you to everyone courageous enough to ask questions & share their beliefs/ insights.
Now, let’s get down to the bottom of this 😉.
Last week, a guy from our IG community asked: how many women are open to pegging their partner(s)?
Let us first define pegging. Our beloved Urban Dictionary defines pegging as: When a woman f*cks a guy with a strap on/ dildo.
How many women are open to pegging their partner?
Based on 288 women who voted.
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You could look at this data and say nearly half of women (48%) may be open to pegging their partner vs 52% who are not open to this idea/ act.
This series escalated quickly and people wanted to know specifics. Someone messaged me and said, “I bet if you reworded the question and asked if guys would be open to their partner playing with their back door instead of pegging that more men would be open to it”.
So we asked—
Men, would you let your partner play with your back door?
Based on 521 men who voted.
Nearly half (46%) of men seem to be curious about a little butt play with their partner. Play was never defined in this question but generally speaking, play is licking, fingering, teasing etc… Not pegging/ deep insertion.
Another question proceeded this one above ^.
“Its kinky in moderation. Pegging is a hard pass but a little tease is pretty hot.” MEN, do you agree or disagree with this statement?
Based on 334 men who voted.
And there you have it ladies and gents. Over half of men are open to a little butt play. (Not pegging/ insertion). Small amounts of butt play include: licking, massaging, fingering).
This is why it’s important to ask the right questions... Sometimes you just have to dig a little deeper to find the answers you’re looking for 😉.
Now… in terms of approaching/ introducing the butt play… that’s a whole different discussion and not one I am well-versed in. So let’s take it up with the IG community and hear about people’s experience & advice. DM me some questions you want to ask and I’ll post them :).
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Stephanie